Showing posts with label Bath Maine. Show all posts
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Saturday, September 5, 2015

Endings and Beginnings - announcement

ENDINGS AND BEGINNINGS 

Unless a grain of wheat falls into the ground and dies, it stays as it is; but if it dies, it bears much fruit. John 12:24 


It is with sadness that I announce I will be leaving Bath Church of the New Jerusalem as of October 31, 2015. Financial realities are what they are. So as to ease the church's financial burdens, I am stepping down two months before the 2015 contract would have ended.

I will return to Canada where the bulk of my friends and family reside. This is an amicable but sad mutual agreement made with the church executive. I will lead the worship and life of the church to the best of my ability until I depart.

It is unfortunate that all of this happened just before I went on vacation. It was difficult to be on vacation with this on my heart, and my return to work has been shadowed with sadness. But such is Providence. Our teachings remind us that every ending is just the start of a new beginning. I will miss Bath and will miss this congregation in particular.

May we all look forward to Providence’s next adventure.

May the Bath congregation find all they dream of, for with God, all things are possible!

All is well and all will be well. Bath and BCNJ will remain in my heart and prayers.

For the time being I will get a day job and enjoy having evenings, weekends, and holidays off like a regular person.  I will be building my online counseling practice and God willing, get back to writing.

I will continue to blog my sermons until I depart. After that, this blog will become my reflections on spirituality and life, with the occasional "supply preaching" sermon thrown in.

God bless,

Pastor Alison


Sunday, January 18, 2015

Shed A Little Light - sermon January 18


Shed a Little Light
Rev. Alison Longstaff, Jan 18, 2015
Bath Church of the New Jerusalem
2 Kings 4:1-7; Matthew 14:13-21; New Jerusalem’s Heavenly Doctrine 151-2  

Elisha said, “I wonder how I can be of help. Tell me, what do you have in your house?”
“Nothing,” she said. “Well, I do have a little oil.”

On this Martin Luther King Sunday, I wanted to talk about what it takes to be a hero, and it might not be what you think. 

I first saw Joe Black in the line at Café Crème down here on Front Street.  My immediate impression of his mustache and tattoos and piercings was, “Scary.  Give that one lots of room!”
 
I happened to be in line with Carolyn Lockwood.  What she said to me next dragged my needle right off that record.  She said with a big smile, “Have you met Joe Black?  He is such a great guy.  Everyone loves him!”  I then learned about his daily Facebook “Message of Awesomeness,” and of the many other ways he brightens the lives of many in this community just by showing up in life with optimism and words of support and encouragement.  Jaded cynics beware.  Joe’s light shines on through the darkest days.  He is a local hero.  

Here I sat down with Joe and asked him the following questions. He answered with his heart.  I have included some summations of his answers. His words encouraged us all to make what difference we can with what we have.  He revealed how we never know when kind words from us might save someone's life.  His words of kindness and way of being loving has inspired at least one person and probably more not to commit suicide.

Tell us a bit about your background, where you grew up and went to school.  How would you describe your childhood and teenage years?   Joe grew up in Bath, attending the local schools.

You got an award from Maine Street Bath, what was it for?  It is for being a good citizen---for his Messages of Awesomeness and Hugs and contributing in many ways, such as the reading program and youth program.

You post daily messages of awesomeness on Facebook and have a commitment to being positive and loving.  What else do you do, and why do you do these things?  He helped see that a skate park was built and he promotes literacy in the schools.

So, do you feel positive and loving all the time? Not at all.  Sometimes he is writing his positive messages to remind himself to stay positive. 

Tell me about a few favorite memories or moments that have happened because of your commitment to being positive and loving and real. A woman told him she was still alive because of his words of encouragement.  Just seeing him stopped her from killing herself.

It sounds very rewarding. What does it cost you to put yourself out there the way you do?  He said it costs him nothing.  He just tries to be himself every day.

We applauded Joe.  He sat down, and then I tied the interview and Scripture together with the theme.

Our Scripture readings pointed us to the way God can take the few resources that we have and make them more than enough for us to accomplish good in the world.  God works through what we love, which is represented by the oil in the widow’s house.  All she had was a little oil, and she thought it was nothing.  But oil represents love.  Oil represents the best in us, it is the spark of joy that can make us serve for hours without fatigue because we are so full of love.  That spark is different for each of us.  It is a spiritual love that shows up in physical ways.

When we tap our inner love, we discover that it is something that never runs out.

That is the message in today’s Scriptures.  That there is always enough when we focus on what matters spiritually. Who among us has not experienced that timelessness and inexhaustible focus that can come over us, when we are engaged in something that truly calls to us?

Our deep spiritual love is bigger and harder to define than the ways it shows up in what we do on earth, but we can get glimpses into what it is by what we love to do.

Some understandings of Swedenborg say that we have a “good” love and an “evil” love, and that we have to “shun” the evil love and try to let God put the good love in us more.  But there is another way to look at it that is simpler and easier to work with.  Let’s picture us as different parts of one body, and I might be, say, part of the liver, and you might be part of a muscle on the right arm, or a red blood cell, or maybe a brain cell. There is so much possibility, and every single cell is needed.  I can be a healthy liver cell, or an infected one.  I might be disease-free or covered in cancer.  But I remain a liver-cell.  I am neither evil nor good, I am a potential useful contributor, but my usefulness is impaired or not by the darkness or disease that is attacking me.   I am what I am.  The problem is the disease or imbalance that affects me. My job is to become aware of and work to remove the diseases or imbalances, not shun my very nature. This model takes a lot of shame and blame and self-loathing out of the picture. It recruits us in being strong against the blocks, or “cancers and diseases” that stop us from living our love.  Do you see the difference in the model?

It is like the difference between a healthy rabbit and a rabbit with rabies.  The rabbit isn't “evil”.  But the rabies will cause the rabbit to do harm until the rabies is removed from it. That is how good loves can be hijacked for harm.  We are made to be expressions of good love.  We can learn about the things that twist our good love and do harm through us by learning about the “hijackers” and protecting against them.

In any case, our good deep spiritual love can show up in all sorts of diverse natural expressions.  For one person, it might show up as rescuing cats; for another, volunteering many hours for a hospital.  For you it might be helping one person at a time with a kind word or an errand; for me it might be making people smile and chuckle in the grocery checkout line.  The speaker at Rotary two weeks ago went to Cambodia to work on a clean drinking water project!  But for someone with massive health challenges it might be all they can do to be patient and kind with their caregivers.  But each one, no matter what the scale, is making a difference in the world towards greater ease, greater peace, and a better life for each other. 

It isn't size or scope that matters.  It is what we do with what we have at hand no matter how small that matters, and God promises that whatever that is, it is enough. 

And it isn't a competition.  It is good that we give awards to thank the ones who make a difference. I loved witnessing the standing ovation offered to Joe when he won his Main Street Bath Award.  But most of us will go unrecognized, and that is okay, because when we are truly living our love, we don’t really care about being recognized anyway, we are having too much fun living our love.

In our Hebrew Bible lesson the widow was also advised to “sell” her oil.  This means that she was commanded to value it and to allow others to value it.  This is not a lesson in capitalism but in self-respect.  It is we who can fail to recognize the value of what we have to offer and can have a hard time accepting love and respect and praise from others for what we bring to life. One woman in this congregation whose initials might be A.S. regularly dismisses her kindness and gentleness and sweetness as being not worth much, and yet there isn't a soul in this congregation who doesn't see her as a treasure beyond words.  (And by the way, before I was married, my initials were A.S. and I still struggle to see that what I bring to the world is valuable, so I am preaching what I need to keep learning.  Why is it is so much easier to see the lovability and worth of someone else, while I struggle to give it to myself?)

So, no matter what your initials are, if you are a self-dismisser I encourage you to rethink and realize the worth you bring, yes, just by being you.  It is no big and great and hard task.  It is like brushing the dirt and stones off a beautifully planted garden, and letting God’s love do the rest.  You are the garden.  You are the seeds.   You are the beautiful plant just needing the right conditions to blossom.

Swedenborg teaches that our very nature is love, and he calls us to “repent.”  “Repent” is an old fashioned word that means “use God’s help to remove the things that block you from being more loving.”  Our job is “repentance”.  God’s job is to do all the rest.  God stands ready to help us battle the weeds and insects and (switching metaphors) spiritual cancer cells that may attack along the way.  Those things are not our fault.  They just are, from years of human darkness on this planet.

Yes, there will be weeds!  There will be nasty creatures that try to stunt our growth, block our path, and eat our happiness.  But God is bigger and stronger than any weed or insect or spiritual cancer cell.  And God made us to grow and bloom and spread joy.

The hero’s journey is not an easy one, but it is the only one worth travelling.  The path to love, the path to you becoming your best self is the path to more joy than you can imagine.  Even death is no enemy when your deepest love is the goal.  Just ask Jesus.  So even though you may feel sometimes like you are walking through the shadow of death, fear no evil.  The God that made you—the God of Love—is with you, and the angels, and all these people around you too.  And all are whispering, “Grow!”

Amen.


Shed a Little Light by James Taylor

Let us turn our thoughts today to Martin Luther King,
and recognize that there are ties between us—all men and women
living on the earth—ties of hope and love, of sister and brotherhood.

That we are bound together in our desire to see the world become
a place in which our children can grow free and strong.
We are bound together by the task that stands before us and the road that lies ahead.
We are bound and we are bound.

There is a feeling like the clenching of a fist
There is a hunger in the center of the chest
There is a passage through the darkness and the mist
And though the body sleeps the heart will never rest

Shed a little light, oh Lord! So that we can see—just a little light, oh Lord.
’Want to stand it on up, stand it on up, oh Lord.
’Want to walk it on down.  Shed a little light, oh Lord.

Can't get no light from the dollar bill. Don’t give me no light from a TV screen.
When I open my eyes I want to drink my fill from the Well on the Hill.
Do you know what I mean?

Shed a little light, oh Lord! ….

Oh, let us turn our thoughts today to Martin Luther King,
And recognize that there are ties between us—all men and women
living on the earth—ties of hope and love, of sister and brotherhood.


Readings:
2 Kings 4:1-7
One day the wife of a man from the guild of prophets called out to Elisha, “Your servant my husband is dead. You well know what a good man he was, devoted to God. And now the man to whom he was in debt is on his way to collect by taking my two children as slaves.”
Elisha said, “I wonder how I can be of help. Tell me, what do you have in your house?”
“Nothing,” she said. “Well, I do have a little oil.”
“Here’s what you do,” said Elisha. “Go up and down the street and borrow jugs and bowls from all your neighbors. And not just a few—all you can get. Then come home and lock the door behind you, you and your sons. Pour oil into each container; when each is full, set it aside.”
She did what he said. She locked the door behind her and her sons; as they brought the containers to her, she filled them. When all the jugs and bowls were full, she said to one of her sons, “Another jug, please.”
He said, “That’s it. There are no more jugs.”
Then the oil stopped.
She went and told the story to the man of God. He said, “Go sell the oil and make good on your debts. Then both you and your sons may live on the rest.”

Matthew 14:13-21
When Jesus heard that John had been killed, he went away from there by boat for a deserted place. But when the people heard it, they followed Him on foot from the cities around the lake. When Jesus went ashore He saw the huge crowd. And He was moved with compassion toward them, and He healed their sick.
When it was evening, His disciples came to Him, saying, “This is a lonely place and the day is now over. Send the crowds away to go into the villages and buy themselves food.”
But Jesus said to them, “They do not need to depart. You give them something to eat.”
They said to Him, “We have only five loaves here and two fish.”
He said, “Bring them here to Me.”  Then He commanded the crowds to sit down on the grass. He took the five loaves and the two fish, and looking up to heaven, He blessed and broke and gave the loaves to His disciples; and the disciples gave them to the crowds.  They all ate and were filled. And they took up twelve baskets full of the fragments that remained.  Those who had eaten were about five thousand men, besides women and children.

New Jerusalem and its Heavenly Doctrine 151, 152 portions
151. To do good to the neighbor which is actually good, it must be done from a good love—that is, for the sake of helping or serving others. Those who truly love serving others are not eager to hear of reward, for they simply love to help others, and they get satisfaction from making a difference.  In fact, they are sad if they consider that what they do might be for selfish reasons.


152. Those who do good because they want something for themselves out of it do not do good in service to the Lord, but in service to themselves.  For their first motivation is self-serving—they are looking out only for themselves. Meanwhile they view the good of the neighbor, which is the good of fellow-citizens, of their community, of their country, and of all humanity as nothing but a means to an end.  This means that a short-sighted attachment to self-service and gain at others’ expense can lie hidden inside good deeds, and so far as self-service and selfish gain lie hidden within a good deed, it is not actually good at all.  

Sunday, September 28, 2014

Water "Communion" and summer review

“The Waters of Our Lives”
Rev. Alison Longstaff, Sept 28, 2014
Psalm 37:23-29, Luke 9: 1-6; AE 453:11

This morning we celebrated our travels and activities over the summer.  I chose readings, prayers and hymns focused on water and travel, trust and community.  Overall, the focus was a celebration of our accomplishments so far, as we gird our loins for the upcoming year. The readings reminded us to trust in the Lord’s leading.  To trust, and trust some more, and keep on trusting.  They also speak of how we travel through life in community.  We need each other to get through.  God works through us and we can be God's presence for each other sometimes, while God is also directly with each one of us.


Instead of a children's talk we celebrated a "water communion"---a lovely ritual brought to us from the Unitarian Universalist tradition.  In it, we each came up and poured water into a common container, our baptismal font, naming the places we have been and what they meant to us.  We had vessels of all shapes and sizes, and water from near and far pouring into our common bowl.  It was beautiful to hear all the stories of where we have been and what we have celebrated.  It makes a special space to hear and see each other, which helps us to feel more connected and know more of each others' lives.
Then we watched a slide show of all the various activities and events that we have been part of as church members this summer, including the many pictures of the renovations to our building.  With a musical accompaniment, it celebrated all that we as a community are doing and how we are growing and loving each other along the way.  In creating it, I worked with the pictures I was able to find. Some events are better represented than others.  Some pictures are not from this year.  But overall, the presentation tried to capture the spirit of our group and of the many individuals who contribute to making BCNJ a vibrant spiritual community.
(Click on this link for the slide show)
Our Summer, 2014
This is BCNJs story for the summer.  May we go forward from here, strengthened in courage and hope, continuing to grow in love and wisdom and service to our community.
The Readings
Psalm 37:23-29 (ESV)The steps of a person are established by the Lord, when we delight in His way;though we fall, we will not be cast headlong, for the Lord holds us up by our hands.I have been young, and now am old, yet I have not seen the righteous forsaken     or his children begging for bread.He is ever lending generously, and his children become a blessing.Turn away from evil and do good; so shall you dwell forever.For the Lord loves justice; he will not forsake his saints. They are preserved forever, while the issue of the wrongdoers shall be cut off.The upright shall inherit the land and dwell upon it forever.

Luke
When Jesus had called the Twelve together, he gave them power and authority to drive out all demons and to cure diseases,  and he sent them out to proclaim the kingdom of God and to heal the sick.  He told them: “Take nothing for the journey—no staff, no bag, no bread, no money, no extra shirt.  Whatever house you enter, stay there until you leave that town.  If people do not welcome you, leave their town and shake the dust off your feet as a testimony against them.”  So they set out and went from village to village, proclaiming the good news and healing people everywhere.


The Apocalypse Explained 453:11  [Regarding portions of Isaiah 33:15,17:] “to walk in honesty and to communicate justly,” means “to behave in all things according to loving-kindness, right-thinking and deep perception.” “To walk” means to live, “in honesty” is describing a person’s goodness, and “to communicate justly,” is describing a person’s truthfulness or thinking.  “The king in his beauty,” is describing each of us as we progress in wisdom, for a “king” means true thinking springing from compassion, and “beauty” means the consequent wisdom. The Divine truth in its most beautiful form is such wisdom. 

Thursday, June 5, 2014

What Does Love Require? - Guest talk

What Does Love Require?
 June 1, 2014
Bath Church of the New Jerusalem 
Rob Lawson, guest speaker
Luke 10: 38-42; John 12: 1-3;  Heaven and Hell, Para. 564

           
On the surface, the New Testament story of Martha and Mary might be summed up as an example in life of the practical vs. the impractical—of Martha busily getting the house in order for her guests and Mary sitting at her Teacher’s feet, apparently oblivious of the chores required. Put yourself in Martha’s shoes (or sandals) for a minute. When Jesus came knocking, He brought 12 disciples with Him. Imagine opening your home to 13 hungry and thirsty men who had been traveling on foot all day. If you didn't make dinner preparations, set the table, offer them an opportunity to wash up, who would? Martha represents the pragmatic, boots-on-the-ground individual. When there’s a crisis, thank God for the Marthas of this world who step up, give directions, and provide solutions. Mary, on the other hand, is the dreamer, the impractical one. Her priority is to focus on one guest—Jesus. She sits still to listen to His teaching, and then before the meal, she washes His feet with expensive oil, using her hair. There is no doubt about Martha’s frustration with her sister’s behavior; she complains directly to Jesus. And when Jesus takes Mary’s side? I can just hear a din of complaints from the sidelines—foul! No way! Get out of here!!
The story of Martha and Mary depicts an ageless, human situation. What do we do when someone pushes our buttons? How do we respond to strangers, neighbors, even friends and family, who annoy us? We can choose to ignore the crying baby at a restaurant. Perhaps shrug off the heedless driver who passes us too fast. Every day we encounter situations we turn away from and do not confront. But some events, some circumstances should not and cannot be ignored. Such was the case in the very building we are sitting in, months after its consecration in 1844.

In April of that year, the Bath congregation was faced with a dilemma: How to respond to a parishioner whose presence had created tension and discomfort within the society for over a year. The lady in question was Mary Waldron. Her full name was Mary Elizabeth Augusta Chandler Prescott Welch Waldron. Crazily, she preferred to use her first initials M.E.A.C. with her current married name. When she joined our congregation, her name is in our minute book as M.E.A.C. Waldron.
Mary was the older daughter of Dr. Benjamin Prescott, one of the then town’s leading doctors. Prescott, a successful practitioner of homeopathic treatment, moved to Bath with his family in 1825 from Dresden, Maine. He had inoculated the townspeople in 1832 during a feared imminent outbreak of cholera. Nineteenth-century histories typically relate the exploits of men. So the fact that Bath historian Parker McCobb Reed describes Mary as a “popular lady” and another chronicler records that she was “a fascinating woman who married younger husbands,” indicates that Ms. Prescott was no shrinking violet.
At 20, Mary married a wealthy young Bostonian, Captain Benjamin Welch. Welch’s family was in the merchant shipping business. The young couple lived in Charlestown, where their only child, Frank Welch, was born in 1835. Shortly afterwards, they relocated to Bath. Capt. Welch died two years later at the age of 29. After her husband’s demise, Mary met Charles Waldron, a Bowdoin College medical student and the son of a Bath doctor. One of the prerequisites of Bowdoin’s two-year course of medical studies was to be apprenticed to an area doctor. In his final year, Charles studied under Dr. Prescott, and fell under the influence of Prescott’s daughter, the widow Welch. Charles and Mary were married in September 1840, while he was still in medical school. A year later, Mary gave birth to her second child, Charliana Waldron. Charles died the following spring at the age of 24. (Frank Waldron Pictured above)

Weeks after Charles’s demise in 1842, the widow Waldron and another Bath doctor, the young Dr. William E. Payne, came to an “Enquiring” meeting held by the Rev. Samuel Dike, the young minister of the Bath Society. The purpose of these meetings was to answer questions and to invite those interested to join the church. To appear in public, as innocent as it may have been, in the company of one of the town’s most eligible bachelors and just weeks after the death of her husband, would have been viewed in those days as indiscreet. Dr. Payne joined the church that April, followed by M.E.A.C. Waldron.  (Dr William Payne, left)

            By spring 1843, a year after joining the church, Payne and Waldron were a cause célèbre. Dr. Payne had broken off his engagement to a Miss Betsy Ann Hatch and had “transferred” his affections for the twice-wedded Mrs. Waldron. The uproar that erupted within the Bath congregation over how to deal with the indiscretions of widow Mrs. Waldron with Dr. Payne and the shame brought on the jilted fiancée Miss Hatch could not have come at a worse moment for the church. The youthful congregation was inexperienced in handling such matters, and the turmoil coincided with the much-anticipated construction of our current church.
Dr. Payne attempted to defuse the situation, writing to withdraw his membership, as recorded in our church minutes, “from the society in consequence of the reproach brought upon it by his late conduct.”
           
By July 15, Zina Hyde, one of the founders of the Bath Society, was on the diplomatic offensive. He notes in his journal, “Long talk with Mr. Sewall respecting the care of Mrs. Waldron and Dr. Payne who have now broken off their engagement but not until they have the means of bringing the society into a very disturbed state.” Hyde recognized the dangerous waters the church was navigating. If the society should act as his Old North Congregational Church had acted—excommunicating readers of Swedenborg’s work—the society’s conduct would be no better than the “Old Church” they left. However, there had to be order. The church must stand up to bad or inappropriate behavior.
            Zina especially must have been aware of the scrutiny the Bath Society was under. In 1816, as a young widower and an enthusiastic receiver of the New Church doctrines, he had been the target of gossip. In a penciled note I found last summer while researching this story at the Maine Maritime Musem, he states that after the death of his first wife, a story spread in Bath that he daily set the table for her, lit a candle, and conversed with her ghostly spirit. No doubt the rumors were encouraged by knowledge of Zina’s belief in the immediacy of the spiritual world around us. Confronting his accusers, Zina published a letter to the contrary in the local paper.
Public outcry and gossip surrounding Mrs. Waldron, Miss Hatch, and Dr. Payne threatened to implode the Bath Society. At first, the volatile situation was diffused through Zina’s intercessions and diplomacy. The penitent Dr. Payne corrected his course over the summer, patching things up with his fiancé Betsy Ann. But what were they to do with the irrepressible Mrs. Waldron?
The unrepentant Mrs. Waldron’s continued presence at church and her refusal to admit to any improprieties gnawed at the forbearance of several church members. Even one church member who had come to the defense of the widow and the young Dr. Payne and who believed both had already suffered much, admitted that their conduct, “has been such that the Society cannot regard them as innocent.”
On the evening of April 30, 1844, while Hyde was in Boston for medical treatment, Brother Sewall, another founding member of the Bath Society, presided over a special meeting in the newly constructed church to deal with the troublesome Mrs. Waldron. The stated purpose of the meeting was “to confer upon the difficulties which have agitated (and do now agitate) the Society for this past year.” Sewall’s motion read: “Whereas the members of the Society have regarded the course of conduct pursued by our Sister Mrs. Waldron during the last fourteen months as giving offence to the true and vital principles of Religion which must constitute the church of the Lord, consequently feeling that an internal Separation had already taken place between us. It is hereby requested that Mrs. Waldron withdraw from the Communion table of the Society.”  (William Sewall, above left)
A vote was taken. Now before you hear the outcome, let’s take our own vote. Everyone close your eyes . . . no peeking! Knowing what you know of her conduct, all those in favor of suspending Mary’s right to communion, raise your hands. [Note: Only one individual voted in the affirmative.] OK. Now all those not in favor of suspending Mary’s right to communion, raise your hands. [Note: Everyone but one member of the congregation, voted not to suspend Mrs. Waldron’s right to communion.] Well, that wasn’t even close! Zina Hyde would be proud of this congregation! How much more tolerant we have become.
And what happened 170 years ago? A bomb of dissension was detonated, setting into motion the very event Hyde had skillfully avoided the previous summer in dealing with Dr. Payne. A slim majority of men and women voted to suspend Mrs. Waldron’s right to communion. It was not a unanimous decision. Many members were absent, including more than 12 women. Several present abstained, and Mrs. Farnham, the wife of A. B. Farnham, the builder of the church, voted no. She was joined in the negative vote by two of the Church Committee members, (people in authority we might call in another denomination Deacons).
As a result of the church’s action, the Prescott family sent letters of resignation. This was a large group of Mrs. Waldron’s mother, Mrs. Waldron’s sister and brother-in-law, and others sympathetic to the Prescotts. John B. Swanton Jr., one of the church “pillars,” questioned the authority of the Society to suspend Mrs. Waldron’s or anyone’s right to the sacraments and refused to continue serving as Secretary and as Treasurer. The Rev. Dike was pressed into service as Secretary Pro-tem.
From his sick bed in Boston, Hyde met one-on-one with Swanton and corresponded with Sewall and Swanton trying to find a way to neutralize Sewall’s headstrong action. The three men went back and forth with suggestions. Swanton was championing Dr. Payne and Mrs. Waldron. Sewall was representing the Allens’ and possibly his own and his wife’s hostility toward Mrs. Waldron. Hyde was brokering for compromise. As he pointed out to Sewall, “Your motion I could have agreed to, had it been somewhat modified and made to imply only temporary suspension, whereas now it seems to amount to excommunication.” (Rev. Samuel Dike, right)
Swanton and Hyde encouraged Sewall and others to make amends by speaking with the injured parties. Swanton (his beautiful Greek Revival house still stands and is next to the church) proposed a resolution to quench the gossip: “Resolved: That we regard it the duty of all in the society together with our Brother [Dr. Payne] and Sister [Mrs. Waldron] to seek by a life of charity and mutual good will to blot out all memory of our past difficulties. That it is our duty to avoid all allusion to the subject ourselves and to close our ears against any allusions to the subject by others. And all such in the Society or out of the Society as are disposed to allude to the subject to the prejudice of the parties cannot be regarded otherwise than as enemies of the church.”  (Miriam Dike, left, wife of Samuel)
Hyde’s indefatigable spirit would not give up on reaching a compromise. His resiliency and determination to preserve the struggling congregation, his “Jerusalem” on earth, prevailed. In May 1845 at an afternoon meeting at his home, the congregation voted to modify Sewall’s resolution from the previous spring. Citing “the injunctions of our Lord as given in the 22nd chapter of Matt and adopted as our rule of conduct,” the congregation charitably offered the widow Waldron its love and affection. “Resolved, that said vote be and hereby is not regarded as designing excommunication or unlimited but limited suspension and only until such time as the person shall manifest a desire to return to the confidence and affection of the society by expressing such a desire to the Pastor.” In effect, Mrs. Waldron’s right to take Communion was left to her “freedom and sense of propriety.”  All that was needed was her initiating a discussion with the Rev. Dike.
           
And so our young society weathered the stormy seas of human relations. Brother Payne corrected his errant ways, married Ms. Hatch, and eventually became one of the pillars of the church. The Payne children would be baptized in the church, and in 1847, Dr. Payne became a loyal and steadfast church officer. His rapid handwriting, as secretary, records in our church minutes nearly thirty years of events. In 1846, Widow Waldron found another young husband, James Lemont Brown, and left Bath. They were married in Trinity Church, NYC (left) , and then relocated in Boston where Brown ran a wholesale jewelry business until his untimely death.
            This brings us back to the story of Martha and Mary. How do we choose to work with difficult people in our lives? Do we take the initial response of the majority and confront the situation with strong language and actions to punish the offender? Or do we take that famous passage from Matthew to heart, as Zina Hyde did, to love our Lord above all others and to love our neighbor as ourselves?
           
At a deeper level, we all have within us the practicality side of Martha and the impracticality tendency of Mary. Finding the right balance between these two inclinations is an everyday reality. Think of accommodating Zina’s more loving approach when reigning in that impractical but endearing urge to take the untrodden path. Down deep inside we know we’ll get there faster the tried-and-true way, but the allure of the unknown cannot always be denied. For me, the answer to the opening question: What Does Love Require? is clear. It is charity to our neighbor. And we can begin close at home by being kinder, gentler with ourselves.

Heaven and Hell (Dole), Para. 564

There are two ways of being in power. One comes from love for our neighbor and the other from love for ourselves. In essence, these two kinds of power are exact opposites. People who are empowered by love for their neighbor intend the good of everyone and love nothing more than being useful—that is, serving others (serving others means willing well and helping others, whether that is one's church, country, community, or fellow citizen). This is their love and the delight of their hearts. As such people are raised to high positions they are delighted; but the delight is not because of the honor but because of the constructive things they can now do more abundantly and at a higher level. This is what empowerment is like in the heavens.